Home and Community Based Services Help Young People Get Ahead
The mission of the HCBS program is to provide home and community-based services to children between 5 and 21 years of age who face the likelihood of residential placement or hospitalization due to a serious emotional disturbance (SED). Our objective is to coordinate an individually tailored plan of care which is designed to meet the needs of the child and his/her family by using their strengths and building a supportive home and community-based environment. Below is a brief story from a recent client and his worker who collaboratively navigated through many of his presenting concerns.
Ari had started attending FCA's HCBS program presenting with suicidal ideation, extreme mood swings, poor focus, impulsiveness issues, and was smoking marijuana. Working with his case manager who developed a plan for Ari and his family, along with support from outside providers, he made progress in many of these areas. Ari stopped smoking marijuana and vows to remain abstinent. This was his personal focus that he had been working towards and achieved while engaged in services. Working with his psychiatrist, he also found an effective balance of medications, which has helped him drastically reduce his mood swings, impulsiveness and improve his focus. Ari has not reported any suicidal ideation and has not been hospitalized since enrolling in HCBS. He graduated high school, which his family was ecstatic about. He currently attends college, which his family reported they never thought he would be able to do. Even with all that has been gained, Ari continues to work with his providers to improve himself each and every day.
At FCA we respect all who come to us for help – and many are working toward a fresh start in life. So while their stories are true, client names and images may have been changed to protect their privacy. FCA thanks you for understanding.
An Added Support System
Cristina is an undocumented Hispanic woman who has been taking care of her 9 year old son who has autism and her mother who has Alzheimer’s Disease. When we first met Cristina in early July, she had never reached out for any assistance before for fear that she would be deported or arrested. She does not speak English and our Care Coach has been continually reaching out to her for support and to help her through this process. Cristina is deteriorating from the burden of care and does not get any sleep because her mom and son are up all night. Her mother’s somewhat aggressive behavior often sparks her son to then become agitated. Cristina has been worn down overtime and is so weak from the burden of care, she was recently hospitalized overnight from stress. Cristina is asking for counseling assistance, home-care, respite and medical care. As we know that time is of the essence with her situation, we have already set her up with a bilingual case manager and will be putting home-care in place for her. We are also assisting the client with getting healthcare so that she can be properly cared for and regain the ability to sleep at night. We are referring Cristina to our children’s programs for assistance with her son and a counselor will be provided so she can benefit from a strong support system as she moves forward.
Learn more about FCA's Alzheimer's Caregiver program.
At FCA we respect all who come to us for help – and many are working toward a fresh start in life. So while their stories are true, client names and images may have been changed to protect their privacy. We thank you for understanding.
Project Independence Youth Grow and Soar
Melody, a youth in our Project Independence (PI) Nassau program, was named Student of the Month at New York Institute of Beauty! She was interviewed for a story on the school’s website, discussing her desire to be a role model for her sister, the time she walked to school during a blizzard, and her experiences growing up in a group home. She gave a special shout-out to her Project Independence counselor for advising her about the financial aid that paved the way to her aesthetician training.
Another PI youth, who was discharged from foster care, successfully obtained stable housing. PI staff transported the youth from a shelter to Job Corp, and then to DSS, helping the youth secure temporary housing. With staff’s assistance, the youth is actively seeking education and job resources to forge a positive path ahead.
Project Independence Nassau continues to hold weekly workshops for Long Island youth at The Learning Center, enabling young people to gain essential skills and information. Recent workshops covered a variety of topics, such as Managing Personal Finances (presented by National Finance Network). Eight youth attended the workshop, learning about the importance of saving money and how to avoid debt.
Renowned author Darryl Davis led a lively workshop on The Power of Smiling, teaching youngsters about the positive effects of smiling and how it impacts people’s emotions and every day state of mind. Participants were able to share personal challenges they have encountered in a safe and positive setting.
Denise Ambroise presented a workshop about recognizing 10 Signs of Relationship Abuse, attended by six PI youth. Ms. Ambroise advised accessing help when emotional, physical or mental abuse occurs in a relationship, stressing that one’s mind and body always belongs to oneself. Youth watched an eye-opening video depicting real stories of abuse experienced by teenagers.
Project Independence Suffolk also held a variety of events, including a Planned Parenthood workshop where six youth learned about sex education, practicing protection, and how to distinguish between common myths and facts. Money management was another featured workshop topic this past month, providing youth with the opportunity to open an account in a local bank. They also learned how to deposit money, write a check, and manage their accounts to avoid overdraft fees. Others visited a nearby mall, where they were taught how to use coupons and to take advantage of retail sales.
Five PI youth visited Stony Brook Medical School, where they toured the facilities with current medical students. The aspiring physicians spoke about the challenging requirements of medical school and how each person overcame obstacles to follow their dream of practicing medicine. During a recent Study Skills workshop, ten youth assessed their learning style and were taught helpful study techniques.
Of course, PI workshops aren’t all work and no play. Seven youth attended a fun Movie Night: a screening of Queen of Katwe, a story about a young girl from Uganda who grew up to become an international chess champion. Afterward, attendees took part in a lively discussion about the importance of following your heart and dreams, and shared how support systems are vital to achieve one’s goals. Upcoming summer events include a trip to Manhattan, a visit to Jones Beach, and a hike in Sand’s Point.
At FCA’s Learning Center, a recent visit to SUNY Farmingdale provided five youth with the opportunity to learn about Farmingdale’s admissions process, amenities and programs. A student tour guide led youth on an informative tour of the school, where they received a first-hand look at college life!
Leading Young People On a Path to Success
Home & Community Based Services (HCBS): B.R.’s Growth and Determination Know No Boundaries
B.R., diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, became pregnant at 17 and sought a safe haven to help her transition into motherhood. She met regularly with FCA’s HCBS providers and her private therapist to identify past triggers to her mental health symptoms. As a result, she gained significant awareness about her susceptibility to Post-Partum Depression and its many symptoms. After giving birth to a healthy baby girl in March 2018, B.R. realized she was experiencing some of these symptoms and reached out to HCBS providers and medical professionals for support.
B.R. has used helpful techniques to curb many of her symptoms while maintaining her role as primary caregiver. She has also adhered to all WIC and medical appointments for her baby and continues to contact HCBS providers whenever she encounters a question about childcare. She is now planning to attend college online. For B.R., the sky is the limit!
Medicaid Care Coordination: A Young Woman with Extraordinary Talent
Congratulations to our Medicaid Care Coordination client, O.S., for being accepted into the Barry Tech Home Health Aide program! Her Care Manager supported her every step of the way, including collaborating with O.S.’ mother to help O.S. obtain an interview for the program.
O.S. aspires to become a CNA after graduation and also has a beautiful singing voice: she performed “Pretty Hurts” by Beyoncé at Art Expressions on June 22nd and at the BOCES CCA graduation. She is also an accomplished softball player at Hempstead High School and is enrolled in competitive dance. She and her mother are active members of FCA’s Family Center Nassau Respite Program, and despite experiencing many hardships (including the recent loss of her grandmother), O.S. always finds the good in life.
Non-Medicaid Care Coordination: A Hole-In-One Transformation
D.U., who came to FCA just a few months ago, attends school in Massapequa. He entered our program expressing anger and resentment toward his mother, making little effort to socialize with others. Much of his free time was spent playing video games at home until his Care Manager linked him up with golf lessons. The activity, financed with service dollars, provides a positive outlet for D.U., who has become more social and less argumentative with his mother. He’s even hoping to attend golf camp this summer!
Family Center Supports and Inspires: Past, Present, and Future
Recently, a parent reached out to our Family Engagement Specialist Gwen Breidbart. The mother was experiencing difficulty with her son, who was discharged from HCBS a few years ago. Gwen met with the parent the very next day. With Gwen’s encouragement, the mother began attending our Parent Support Group and credits FCA’s family support services for equipping her with crucial information and advocacy skills. She was particularly moved by Gwen’s ability to remember detailed information about her son from a few years ago, exclaiming, “I can’t believe you remembered that! I even forgot about that!”
Family Center client J.R. is on track to graduate with a Regent’s Diploma in June 2019. This is a huge achievement for J.R., who had previously accumulated many absences from school. Her academic performance has improved drastically since September and she refuses to let anything interfere with obtaining her Regent’s Diploma on time. Additionally, J.R. was accepted to the Nassau Community College High School program and is currently holding a steady job. She is more motivated than ever and is a positive influence on her peers. She is excited to start the next chapter of her journey. Way to go J.R.!
THRIVE Staff Receive Praise from Program Participant
G.M., a resident of Phoenix House, recently attended THRIVE’s GYST (Get Your Sh** Together) group and is new to the program. Here is an excerpt of an email G.M. sent to staff, expressing praise and gratitude for the positivity he has encountered. Way to go, THRIVE team!
"Hey Billy, its G.M. from Phoenix House! Just wanted to reach out and say thank you very much for getting us today! Like I said, I’m on two days of sleep and I FORCED myself to go to THRIVE today. I was looking forward to it like crazy and I’m very glad I met you. On a serious note…I know I joke around a lot and try to be comical but this s**t is very serious and I really am glad I met you. I already told everyone here about you. Sometimes you just cross paths with certain people and you can tell by their glow and demeanor that they’re that special type of person that’s very rare to find these days. I just wanted to tell you you’re awesome and extremely contagious as far as happiness and positivity go! Thank you!”
At FCA we respect all who come to us for help – and many are working toward a fresh start in life. So while their stories are true, client names and images may have been changed to protect their privacy. FCA thanks you for understanding.
HER TURN Continues to Transform Lives
After being diagnosed with HIV in the early 2000’s (and later with Epilepsy), Samantha struggled with receiving appropriate HIV care while coping with frequent alcohol use and cognitive limitations. A lack of a Primary Care Physician often results in Samantha receiving her care in hospital Emergency Rooms, and she is often forgetful of the medications she is prescribed.
FCA’s HER TURN staff have successfully linked Samantha to vital resources to improve her care. They immediately connected her to Northwell Health’s Infectious Disease unit and to FCA’s Chemical Dependency Program. To ensure Samantha adheres to her medical appointments, HER TURN staff arranged for a care coordinator to assist with Samantha’s transportation and oversee medication management with Stat Specially Pharmacy. Samantha is now surrounded by a supportive team and will be receiving the essential healthcare services that she lacked before enrolling in HER TURN.
At FCA we respect all who come to us for help – and many are working toward a fresh start in life. So while their stories are true, client names and images may have been changed to protect their privacy. FCA thanks you for understanding.
Ombudsman's Timely Assistance
A resident’s husband called FCA's Ombudsman office stating that his wife is not being properly cared for at her facility. The husband continued to share that his wife has been at the facility for 17 months, and for the past 3 months, he has been requesting that she be seen by a specialty doctor because he’s noticed that her condition had worsened. He went on to report that the facility had been giving him “the run around”, telling him that “the doctor is out on vacation or at the hospital”. He was also repeatedly told that “her vitals are fine” insinuating that “she’s fine.” The Ombudsman requested permission to call on his behalf to investigate the matter and he agreed happily to accept the assistance.
Upon the Ombudsman speaking with the Social Worker, she offered to review the resident’s medical file over the phone. At first, she indicated there’s “no medical reason to send her out.” However, upon reading further into the medical file, the Social Worker found that a consult was ordered for the resident to see a specialist about her ailment. The Social Worker agreed to follow up with the doctor to find out if the appointment had been scheduled and also agreed to call the husband immediately with the details.
Shortly after the phone call to the facility, the Ombudsman called the husband to follow up. The husband informed the Ombudsman that the Social Worker had already called him with details about the appointment. The husband started to cry stating that he’s 92 years old and takes the bus to see his wife 6 days a week and he rests on the 7th day because he’s "overwhelmed and tired.” He thanked the Ombudsman profusely and stated that in 1 hour, the Ombudservice office resolved an issue he’d been trying to resolve over the course of the past 3 months. The Ombudsman stated that his wife was lucky to have him as an advocate and he said, “of course, why wouldn’t I help her, that’s my wife.”
HIICAP Counselors Provide Seniors Relief
FCA's HIICAP program was referred a client who received an $800 bill from Medicare and notice that she will be dropped if this was not paid. Researching her problem, we found that Social Security had made many mistakes with her account. When she was younger, she had Medicare because of ESRD (End Stage Renal Disease). After a transplant in 2011, she continued to have Medicare coverage for an additional 36 months after which she lost Medicare coverage and pick up Medicaid coverage. When she turned 65 in December, 2017 this triggered problems with her Medicare. It turned out that she was never dis-enrolled from Part B and unbeknownst to her, the state had been paying the Part B premium since 2013. This problem required the help of the Medicare Rights Center in resolving this problem. We were successful in enrolling our client in Medicare Part A and B plus QMB in the Medicare Savings Program and enrolling her in a Part D plan. Thanks to the client's HIICAP counselor, the client was able to breathe a sigh of relief and was also visited by FCA's EISEP (Extended In-Home Services for the Elderly Program) to assist with communication about her medicare, being that the client is homebound.
Senior Expressing Gratitude for FCA
Ms. M is a 67 year old woman living alone in an apartment. She was in a terrible accident a few years ago. She had multiple surgeries including hip and back surgery, and was permanently disable from the accident. She became an FCA client four years ago. She suffers from multiple health issues.
Ms. M has no family members and very few informal supports. She is currently receiving 12 hours of EISEP (Extended In-Home Services for the Elderly Program) Level 2 services to assist her with her Activities of Daily Living (ADL) and Instrumental Activities of Daily Living (IADL) which help determine the level of care assistance a person needs. She has a good relationship with her aide and is very thankful for the EISEP funding to her her remain in the community. She lives in a rent stabilized apartment but does not have much money left after paying her rent. Ms. M's case manager has assisted her with entitlements and monitors the client.
Due to the nature of her injuries she struggles to transfer from chairs to an upright position and is uncomfortable sitting in most chairs unless they are propped up with pillows. Ms. M. has two surgeries coming up and was in need of a new lift chair more than ever because the one she had purchased years ago was not working properly and was beyond repair. Through the help of her EISEP case manager, Ms. M received ancillary funding from the Office for the Aging to purchase a new lift chair.
Thank you letter from Ms. M:
Just a short note to thank FCA for arranging delivery of the life chair for my living room. I sincerely appreciate the consideration and generosity of all. This will definitely help me after the spine surgery.
Ready for Prom
A donation, no matter what size, has the power to change someone’s life. Prior to the donations that were given to the Lakeview Community Residence, current resident Samantha had extreme anxiety thinking about her upcoming prom. The questions were endless... "How will I pay for the ticket? How will I pay for my dress? Will I have to do my own hair and makeup? Where will I get shoes from? How will I get to prom?" Sam wasn’t sure if she would be able to afford all of the "prom necessities." With a bit of outreach, a donor came along, and another, and before Sam knew it, nothing was left for her to pay for. This means she would no longer have to dip into her college savings fund to pay for her prom. Sam has been working 16 hours a week, in addition to school, to save up for college and related expenses. Finally, Sam could take a breath. Finally, Sam could smile knowing she could attend her own prom and not have to worry about all of the expenses that go along with it. These are memories that will stay with Sam for a lifetime.
Prom truly is a milestone in many young people’s lives. It's the point between childhood and adulthood, to celebrate in a unique way that is often a once in a lifetime opportunity for kids. Prom is also a learning experience which teaches young adults how to behave in a formal setting, using good manners, acting like ladies and gentleman, and are just a few of the lessons they learn without even realizing it. Prom gives the chance for young women and men to dress up, feel confident, and dance the night away with friends by their side.
“Hi, I’m Samantha. I just wanted to thank everyone for donating the money for me to go to prom. I live in a community residence and really didn’t think I was going to be able to go to my senior prom because I just didn’t have the money. But thanks to you and the social workers at the house, I’m able to have a wonderful night with my friends before we graduate. I really can’t thank you enough for your so generous donation. Thank you so so so so much.”
Because of our generous donors, Samantha is able to go to prom at no cost to her. Everything will be covered. Hair, makeup, dress, shoes, limo, pre-prom photography. Samantha will spend the day becoming a princess until her chariot awaits her and off she will go to the prom to make memories that will last forever. If you're interested in connecting with Family & Children's Association, gives us a call at 516-746-0350 or check out our volunteer opportunities: https://www.familyandchildrens.org/volunteer/
Caring for Long Island Seniors
Ms. M is an 86 year old widow who lives alone in a first floor apartment. She was very close to one of her daughters who died several years ago. She has another daughter who provides informal support. Ms. M struggles to be independent and has until recently not allowed any one to come into her home and provide her with home-care services. Ms. M’s resistance to services, originated from a bad experience she had with chore services from another agency. Ms. M’s case manager started visiting her and regularly discussed FCA chore services. With encouragement, Ms. M finally agreed to give it a try and was so pleased with her chore worker that she has gradually allowed her to do more and more things for her within the parameters of the chore program. Ms. M’s daughter is very pleased that her mother can finally get the help she so desperately needs but was resistant to accept.
FCA case managers offer comprehensive assessment and in-home services for seniors age 60 and over. We are committed to connecting seniors to available community resources they need to remain safely and independently at home. If you or a senior you know are having difficulty functioning independently at home, our case managers may be able to provide assistance.
To learn more, call: (516) 292.1300 x2223
Former FCA Client Now Giving Back to Others
By Kelly Kass, Senior Writer, Marketing Works
In 1994, Al Sita was a high school senior who turned to Family & Children’s Association’s (FCA’s) Walkabout Program for guidance and support during a challenging time in his adolescence. While living at the transitional residence (then located in Bethpage, New York), Al learned a number of household and independent living skills, enabling him to gain more structure and prepare for the future.
Recalling those impactful four months, Al says, “FCA provides a stable place for young people with a difficult home life. They were the light at the end of the tunnel for many of us, and helped lay the groundwork for residents to achieve a happy, productive life.”
While residing at Walkabout, Al participated in the Steps to Success program, which gave him a sense of “greater responsibility.” He credits the support from his counselor as a major factor in his success, fueling his desire to improve his life. After completing the program, Al went on to attend SUNY Cortland (thanks to a scholarship obtained through FCA), graduating with a degree in History. He now holds a successful job with Weill Cornell Medicine, working in Information Systems alongside several IT project managers.
More than 20 years after Walkabout transformed his life, Al is now striving for the same outcomes for participants of FCA’s Friendly Visiting Program. In 2017, he enrolled as a volunteer, helping to enhance the quality of life of seniors living in Nassau County.
He initially reconnected with FCA after his father became ill at a local nursing facility, contacting Ombudservice for support. “Witnessing the work of Ombudservice volunteers made me appreciate their dedication and advocacy. It inspired me to want to make a difference for Long Island’s senior population,” Al explains.
As an FCA Friendly Visitor, Al visits the home of Joe, a 95-year-old homebound Wantagh resident, offering weekly companionship and good conversation. “When you’re 95 and can’t leave the house, it’s the little things that mean a lot,” Al says. He’ll often find Joe waiting at the door for him to arrive. Their lively visits are usually comprised of several games of Gin Rummy. Joe loves the interaction and never hesitates to play another hand. “He’s very competitive,” Al says. “He even offers to let me win. Sometimes we play for two hours.”
Al enjoys brightening Joe’s day and loves the “rewarding feeling” of helping others. He recommends volunteering to current Walkabout residents and other FCA program participants. “At the end of the day, everyone should give back if they can. Just one hour a week can make a big difference for someone.”
For more information on volunteering at FCA, visit www.familyandchildrens.org/volunteer.
Family Success Stories from FCA's Children's Mental Health Division
A youngster we'll call Carly, who is engaged with FCA's HCBS program, was recently awarded the George Farber award at Jerusalem Ave Elementary School! The award is presented by BOCES to one student per school and recognizes a student for his or her academic excellence, perseverance and willingness to help others. Her goals at HCBS have been to focus on her interactions with others and develop effective time management skills. Carly's mother reports since enrolling in HCBS, Carly's ability to regulate her mood and focus on her academic goals has noticeably improved.
Jamie has been in Care Coordination since November, 2016. Working with her Care Manager, they've solidified a plan for her to get healthy by joining her local gym and establish a disciplined routing to make healthier food choices. As a result, Jamie has increased her self-esteem and in turn, has been out socializing with her peers more often. Jamie has become a more confident person which was a struggle for her in the past. Having been linked to Creation Arts in Massapequa, NY, Jamie now has a creative outlet which allows her to explore her positive qualities. She has also been linked to the FCA’s Family Center Respite Program which provides her with more opportunities to engage with activities in the community with her worker and she has clearly enjoyed her experience. We are happy to announce that Jamie has been successfully discharged from our program as of 3/2018!
Erica began Care Coordination in October 2016 with severe anxiety and had not been to school in 9 months. With the professional care and support of Erica's worker and her ability to enact her newly learned coping skills as we worked to transition Erica back to school full-time, she was successfully discharged in March of 2018 due to her ability to consistently attend school. Erica was also recently accepted to the College Program at NUMC for her senior year and was recognized as student of the month for December of 2017!
At FCA we respect all who come to us for help – and many are working toward a fresh start in life. So while their stories are true, client names and images may have been changed to protect their privacy. We thank you for understanding.
PACT Offers More than Parenting Skills
Through an inter-agency referral, 18 year old Eliza was connected with FCA's Parents and Children Together (PACT) program in Hempstead, NY. She has two children and was seeking access to parenting skills workshops, and assistance with her pending immigration case. Eliza has an undocumented three year old child who has Epilepsy. The diagnosis has significantly impacted her family and cultural beliefs of the use of medication by her father. Eliza decided to live independently with her boyfriend and children to effectively raise and apply her own parenting style and to avoid conflict with her father. She dropped out of school and is not be able to qualify for childcare subsidy due to child’s immigration status. Eliza continues to coordinate services with neurologists, medical professionals, and PACT program’s case manager. Her mother monitors and administers medication to reduce child’s seizure episodes. Eliza’s child is not eligible to receive Early Intervention for her speech delay due to her child’s age. After being referred to the BOCES Parent-Child Home Program and being involved with FCA, Eliza was now feeling much more supported. Eliza's child will now receive early literacy services twice a week and after several attempts, Eliza was able to successfully enroll her child into the Uniondale School District. Eliza has an upcoming CSE meeting for her child to receive special education services and FCA will be supporting and advocating for her throughout the process. Eliza continues to actively participate in parent support and skills workshops and she is committed to continue to improving her parenting skills.
At FCA we respect all who come to us for help – and many are working toward a fresh start in life. So while their stories are true, client names and images may have been changed to protect their privacy. We thank you for understanding.
FCA Guides Parents on Challenging Paths
By Kelly Kass, Senior Writer, Marketing Works
For many Long Island residents, Family & Children’s Association (FCA) is a haven of comfort and support for families raising children with emotional disturbances. Located in Garden City and Holbrook, FCA’s Family Centers provide family support, respite, and youth peer advocacy services designed to decrease the need for psychiatric hospitalizations while creating greater stability for caregivers and their children.
At the heart of the Center are weekly support groups led by Family Peer Advocates who are raising a child with social, emotional and/or behavioral challenges. Monthly family engagement activities, such as bowling and art therapy workshops, are also held to provide positive and creative outlets and bring families together.
“Parents typically come to us because they feel they’re not getting proper support in the community or that their family and friends don’t understand what they’re going through,” explains Gwen Breidbart, FPA, FCA Family Engagement Specialist.
Through the creation of a support network, FCA’s Family Center aims to unite and empower families. “Our goal is to validate their experiences, build their confidence and reduce any isolation they might be feeling,” says Rosemary Randazzo, LMSW, FPA, FCA Family Center Coordinator.
Gwen and Rosemary try to build connections between parents’ that they can use outside of group or the program. “We recently had someone in danger of losing her lease, so we photocopied the phone numbers of eight different parents for her to call,” Gwen points out.
Twice a month, support groups are held at a local café in East Meadow, where parents are treated to coffee, and have the opportunity to meet and share stories in a more casual setting. Parents enrolled in the Family Center’s Holbrook location attend similar coffee breaks in Farmingdale. “After assessing barriers that impact people’s attendance at support groups, we decided to reach parents in a way that’s more comfortable for them,” Rosemary explains.
The Family is the Core
In addition to therapeutic services, families are linked to other resources that FCA provides, including home and community-based services (HCBS) and case management. “We tie into every available service and target the family as a unit. If that unit is not in place, no progress will be made,” Gwen points out.
Care managers meet monthly with parents and children in their homes, ensuring effective skill-building techniques pertaining to proper hygiene and maintaining a harmonious home life. FCA staff also evaluate any academic challenges that may be occurring, such as failing grades, overcrowded classrooms or incidents of bullying. “We establish open communication with the parent and child to make sure they know what their rights are and what services they are entitled to,” Rosemary says.
In many cases, parents express difficulties coping with the stigma of mental health. “Many people don’t consider ADHD a mental health condition so they don’t pursue services, or they feel embarrassed to reach out,” Gwen points out. “In the settings we provide, we want everyone to feel welcome and accompany each other on a similar path.”
Gwen recalls one program participant who slept with a knife under her pillow because she feared her 17-year-old son, who was diagnosed with schizophrenia. “Nobody judged her for waiting to seek assistance for her child. They understood her plight and were filled with empathy,” Gwen remembers. “At FCA, we’re here to share people’s journeys and let parents know that they are not alone.”
For more information on FCA’s Family Center, Children’s Care Coordination and other services, visit:
Hope for a Mother of Three
Jane is a multiple trauma survivor with a history of multiple incidents of assault from co-workers, a relative and through intimate partner violence. Through linkages from HERTURN, Jane became a recipient of a grant in the amount of $2500 provided by an FCA Board Member wishing to remain anonymous. Jane has 3 children, one with Pitt-Hopkins syndrome which is characterized by intellectual disability and developmental delay, breathing problems, and recurrent seizures. Receiving this money will help move Jane's family forward as it will go towards the purchase of a Rifton Pacer Gait Trainer which will facilitate her ability to become mobile and an Ipad which will assist her with communication.
Her other 2 children have severe behavioral problems and this family lives together in one bedroom. Jane has endured severe stressful moments due to her complex traumas and attempt at raising a disabled child without financial resources and enough living space. Being the recipient of this grant money is life changing for this family. HERTURN is continuing to support this family with connections to Care Coordination (adult and child) and HCBS services through FCA. Jane does not speak English, but desires to receive a GED and can begin to focus more on her goals now that her daughter has a chance for a better quality of life.
Friendly Visiting Program Touches the Lives of Long Island Seniors
By Kelly Kass, Senior Writer, Marketing Works
Peter and George
Ninety-three-year-old Peter L. is no stranger to the importance of giving back. The World War II Veteran and Purple Heart recipient proudly served his country in the South Pacific, until he was wounded by a bullet that remained lodged inside his shoulder for a decade.
Years later, others now are giving back to Peter. Three times a week, the South Hempstead resident is visited by George J. Ruggeri, a volunteer with Family & Children’s Association’s (FCA’s) Friendly Visiting Program, which strives to enhance the lives of Long Island homebound seniors through companionship and social interaction.
“I get treated like a king,” Peter says. “Instead of just sitting around and thinking all day, I can have a conversation with someone. This program really lifts me up.”
During their one-hour visits, Peter and George usually enjoy a game of cards or watching game shows. Peter has preferred a “simple way of living” ever since the passing of his wife of 67 years, Madeline, in 2015. Their two children and three grandchildren reside in Suffolk County.
Support from his family and the Friendly Visiting Program enable Peter to fulfill his wish of remaining in his lifelong home. The familiar surroundings “keep you alive,” he says.
Increased socialization also plays a major role in boosting a senior’s quality of life. “Without social interaction, a senior can feel more lonely and isolated, which can lead to poor health and feelings of depression,” explains Jessica DiCarlo, FCA Friendly Visiting Coordinator. “Our trained volunteers are thoroughly vetted with the same goal: to keep people company and bring a smile to their face.”
When George visits, Peter is “overjoyed,” especially when George brings snacks and treats. “It’s rewarding being able to make a person feel better,” George explains. In the six months he has been visiting Peter, George has achieved a greater sense of purpose. “The communication I have with Peter, talking about life stories, is very meaningful to me,” he says.
Louise and Beverly
Louise D., 99, has been a recipient of FCA’s case management and in-home assistance program for 10 years. She has participated in the Friendly Visiting Program for three years. The former military volunteer, teacher’s aide and banking professional resides in New Hyde Park, where she is visited every Thursday by her Friendly Visiting volunteer, Beverly Goldberg.
During the hour-long visits, the two women enjoy catching up over a bowl of Italian wedding soup. “I let Louise lead the way with our conversations,” Beverly says. “She is extremely sharp. I learn a lot from her and the many stories she tells.”
Louise, who will be turning 100 years old this September, is a great-grandmother to ten great-grandchildren, and loves sharing anecdotes about the times she used to walk across the Williamsburg Bridge, or when she worked as a New Accounts Teller at East New York Savings Bank in Brooklyn.
As a child, Louise grew up near Mount Vesuvius in Italy, where rumblings and volcanic ash were a common occurrence. Fearing for her family’s safety, Louise’s mother moved Louise and her nine siblings to America. Four of her brothers served in the military, including one brother who became a POW after his plane was shot down. Fortunately, he was later found. A shortage of military nurses led Louise to volunteer for the service, where she was trained on a variety of tasks in a nursing uniform paid for by the bank where she worked. Her passion for giving back was also demonstrated during her three years working as a teacher’s aide at a local elementary school.
Today, she’s grateful for the help she is receiving from the Friendly Visiting Program. She was enrolled in the program by her daughter and is grateful for the added support the service provides.
“FCA volunteers provide an extra set of eyes and ears for seniors,” Louise says. “They’re a constant in our lives which helps provide more stability.”
Beverly points out, “Seniors can be a forgotten group in society. The Friendly Visiting Program empowers senior citizens and provides them with a cheerleader so they can stick to their routines like attending doctor’s appointments.” Volunteers also help seniors stay informed of their rights and entitlements when it comes to Medicare, insurance and social security.
For Louise and Beverly, participating in the program is also a way for them to stay active. Beverly, who is in her 70’s, says, “Volunteering keeps me going. It’s good for my mind. As long as I can walk, I will continue to help and make a difference,” Beverly says.
For more information on FCA’s Friendly Visitors Program, visit www.familyandchildrens.org/programs-services/senior-services/friendly-visitors.
Funding for FCA’s Friendly Visiting Program is provided by PSEG Long Island.
Advocating for Long Island Seniors
Rick D, is a 60 year old disabled man who lives in a house share in Merrick, NY. This client experiences abuse on behalf of his landlord. She takes advantage of him financially. She does not allow him to have heat on in the home. She told him the reason is because he is disabled her gas and electric bill is too high. If he would just be regular and go to work the bill would be more reasonable. The temperature in the house has been as low as 55 degrees Fahrenheit and she locks the thermostat so he does not have access to it. The client is afraid to advocate for himself.
FCA's Linkage Program has advocated for him and helped connect him with a range of services including Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) support groups, TBI waiver program and possible housing options. The Long Island Housing Authority contacted Linkage to say they have enough evidence on this landlord to have charges brought against her for unlawful and inhumane treatment. We are still working with this client to get him a safe place for him and his therapy cats to live a peaceful life.
For more information on how you can benefit from FCA's Adult & Senior Services, call 516-292-1300.
Health Care Coverage Assistance
FCA's HIICAP program offers free, current and impartial information, counseling and advocacy services concerning health care coverage for seniors. Recently a client called FCA's HIICAP program to help her with choosing a new HMO plan being that hers was going out of business. During our screening/interview process, our counselor determined that she was eligible for the Medicare Savings Program (MSP) because of her low income. We sent her a list of appropriate HMO’s to consider and applications for the Medicare Savings Program and EPIC (a NYS supplemental drug plan). Our client was accepted into MSP and Epic. She has received a retroactive payment check of over $600, 100% Extra Help coverage for her drugs, and her Part B premium is no longer deducted from her monthly Social Security check. She has also received refunds from EPIC and her old HMO drug plan. For many managing through health care coverage information is a daunting and seemingly endless task. FCA's HIICAP program can help you and your loved ones reduce stress when it comes to health care coverage. Give us a call today: (516) 485-3425 x2322
MG was referred to FCA's Care Coordination Program by South Oaks Hospital. She was diagnosed with Anxiety and Depression, but has been able to drastically overcome her anxiety by performing in school plays. During her time in Care Coordination, her family lost their home and experienced other stressful family moments, but with the support of her Care Manger she utilized new skills to develop and maintain a healthy perspective and outlook for the future. Recently, MG’s mom reached out to the Care Manager to share the great news that MG was accepted to Binghamton University! We are very proud of MG’s accomplishments and the young lady she has grown into.
From Residential Facility to Auto Tech College
After being discharged from a Residential Treatment Facility, DS enrolled in FCA's Home and Community Based Services (HCBS) waiver program. Despite being diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and PTSD, DS quickly acclimated to the program and to both of his workers. DS is extremely resilient and strives to better his circumstances by advocating for himself as well as asking for help from his team. DS has a desire to continue to grow and makes tremendous strides to attain his goals and set further goals to ensure his success in the future. Recently, DS was accepted and decided to attend the college of automotive and diesel tech this coming fall. This accomplishment was set in motion by DS calling and scheduling his own interview. DS is excited to start attending school and work towards a very bright future.
NY Sharks Football Player Mentors FCA Youth
Family & Children’s Association’s (FCA) Lakeview House recently teamed up with Long Island Youth Mentoring to make one resident’s dream come true. Lakeview House, located in West Hempstead, serves as a community residence for co-ed youth ages 13-18 suffering from significant emotional impairments and mental illness. Francy "Jo" M. always had a dream of being a professional football player. The partnership between Lakeview House and Long Island Youth Mentoring provided Francy with the opportunity to not only build a rewarding and supportive relationship with a mentor, but to connect with a mentor who is a professional football player.
Brilynn Fields, 30, is on the Team USA Women’s Tackle Football team. Fields has been a wide receiver and offensive tight end for the New York Sharks of the Women’s Football Alliance since 2013. Fields is the head of Talent and Acquisition for a Management firm by day and a star wide receiver/ tight end off the clock.
Fields visits Francy at least once or twice a week. The two spend quality time together, whether it is going to the movies or just shooting hoops outside the Lakeview House. For Halloween, Fields allowed Francy to borrow her football gear so she could feel like “the football player she’s always dreamed to be.”
“She reminds me a lot of myself as a kid. So much energy and imagination, but often misunderstood. One of my greatest strengths is in the sports realm track, basketball and softball, then most recently and most loved: Football! So imagine my surprise when I was told that the little girl that I’d have the honor and pleasure of working with wants to be a future football player. I didn’t even know at 14 years old that football was a possibility, but at 30 years old for the last five years it has been a place of peace for me, and I’m grateful to be able to pass that along to her. For Halloween she wanted to be a football player, and I felt so much pride in being able to give her my helmet and pads to live out being a football player. When we hang out I’m able to show her routes as a wide receiver, and even show her how to hold her hands to receive the ball as a running back or as she would call it “the one who gets the hand off and plows through everyone” Football teaches life skill sets, how to be a team player, how to be selfless, strength, and commitment to something bigger than yourself. I can’t wait to help instill those qualities in her during the times we get to hang out, and I’m so excited for her to be able to witness her first New York Sharks Women’s Professional Football Game, I pray it changes her life in the most positive way the same way that it did mine,” Fields tells FCA Social Worker Carly Weinstein.
“I’d like to continue to develop in all areas of my life. I’d like to publicly speak one day to younger kids, especially those in the LGBT community, or any group of people who might feel alone or in dark places to know that they are loved, and hopefully help them to understand just how loved they actually are. I’d like to be a part of the solution for others to know that they have an outlet in which they don’t’ have to feel alone. I’d like to help those people in the darkness, find even just a sliver of light that might help them on their journey. It is my wishes, hopes, and dreams, to continue becoming the change I wish to see in the world,” Fields explains.
For over 25 years, Long Island Youth Mentoring has matched at-risk children between ages 8 and 16, with screened, trained Christian adults who sense the need to help a child-in-need. They spend 2-4 hours a week together doing things they both enjoy. Long Island Youth Mentoring has a tutoring program for children in grades 2-5 called Partners to Potential, Jail Visitation in Nassau County and the GAP (Girls in Alternative Placement) program mentoring girls who are living in a group home or residential treatment facility.
Family & Children’s Association’s (FCA) Lakeview House is a community residence for adolescents who suffer from significant, emotional impairments and are in need of a structured setting in the community that enables them to become involved in the responsibilities of daily living. Residence in this program allows for staff of both the referring agency and the community residence to plan for the youth’s future. The program is certified through the New York State Office of Mental Health.
Article written by Carly Weinstein, LMSW
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Teen Thrives at Walkabout
Alzheimer's Caregiver Gain Support
Story told by FCA Alzheimer's Caregiver program staff...
"Alice and her husband were married in the Middle East and moved to New York when their children were very young. It is clear from getting to know Alice that their 50+ years together have been very special. It is also clear that she is a natural matriarch and used to being in control of family matters. Her husband however being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s was a shock and something that she unfortunately could not control. While not used to asking for help, as a senior herself experiencing health issues, Alice has come to understand that she can no longer manage the physical care of her husband on her own. She now relies on an aid and the help of her children. Such an adjustment has naturally taken an emotional toll on Alice. Not only is she slowly losing the love of her life but feels she is losing her ability to take care of him. Discussing her feelings has been very difficult for Alice but over the course of our work together she has come to learn the benefits of sharing certain thoughts and feelings that she does not feel comfortable sharing with others. Such a realization that, as a caregiver, Alice is "allowed" to ask for both physical and emotional help to get through this difficult time in her life is one example of the breakthroughs care coaching has provided.
Family Support: Holiday Joy
Family Support worker Marie Olivier provided one of her clients with a Christmas miracle:
"On December 18th, 2017, I had the opportunity to witness the greatest smiles on my client’s faces. I signed up a family, Brandon and Amanda, for the Adopt-a-Family program because I felt they could greatly use a Christmas miracle - and what a miracle it was for that family. My client, Amanda, exclaimed, "I never received so many gifts for Christmas in my entire life." She also added, "The last time that I remember receiving any gifts for Christmas was when I was a child but it never came close to what I experienced this Christmas." Amanda was so full of joy that day, she could not stop smiling from ear to ear. Brandon kept shaking his head in disbelief. Finally, he remarked, "I never thought that something like this could be possible." They also made sure to let me know that their little girl was especially going to be happy. They could not wait to see the happiness and excitement on their daughter's face when she opens those gifts.
Ombudservice Volunteers Enhance the Lives of Long Island Seniors
When Bill S. retired from teaching, he was looking for a meaningful activity to devote his time. He saw an ad in the paper in search of volunteers at Family and Children’s Association (FCA) and he immediately applied.
The agency’s advocacy program, known as Ombudservice, is federally mandated and based on a Swedish term for someone who serves as a Citizen Representative – a state-certified volunteer assigned to long-term care facilities, such as nursing homes, adult homes and assisted living facilities.
After witnessing issues that arose with his father-in-law’s own nursing home care 13 years ago, Bill was inspired to make a difference for seniors on Long Island. He contacted Margaret Hromada, FCA’s Ombudservice Director (at the time of this article), who placed him into a 36-hour training program. After completing his certification, Bill was assigned to a Long Beach nursing home where he still volunteers today. He also assists at a nearby assisted living facility, providing a voice to additional vulnerable populations.
“Whenever I visit the two facilities, I immediately make myself visible,” Bill explains. “I walk slowly past each room and greet family members in common areas. I let residents and their loved ones know that I am here for them.”
In some instances, residents come to him directly to communicate their concerns. Bill makes it his mission to address every issue raised during his weekly two-hour visits.
“Both facilities are very accommodating to Ombudservice volunteers,” Bill points out. “Staff provide helpful feedback and can hold the missing pieces if a resident’s cognitive abilities are impaired.”
On a given day, Bill could be troubleshooting delays in social security payments, or an issue with a resident’s personal needs allowance (PNA) benefit. This usually entails following up with caseworkers about retroactive allowances and making sure the funds are transferred to residents’ accounts.
Bill maintains strong relationships with Licensed Practical Nurses (LPNs) to ensure medication lists are up-to-date and that any medical issues are addressed. He also liaises with staff in the event of a behavioral conflict between residents, and to make sure dietary needs and preferences are accommodated.
“The most important feature a volunteer can have is our ears,” Bill says. “Residents need to know that there is a friendly person they can count on to help them.”
The companionship factor is also critical. “Many residents are alone in the world. They look forward to interacting with our volunteers and appreciate that they take the time to sit and speak with them,” Margaret points out.
The bonds that are formed are essential to seniors’ well-being. Volunteers help to build trust while serving as confidants. “When you’re dependent on someone to wash you, change you, feed you, and you suddenly complain about your care, it can be very frightening,” Margaret explains. As a policy, volunteers do not divulge the identity of residents when attempting to resolve issues. “Our goal is to make sure residents are treated with high-quality care, dignity and respect,” she says.
While Bill and other volunteers enjoy the meaningful work and the opportunity to consult with doctors, nurses and administrators, the number of Ombudservice volunteers continues to decline. According to Margaret, volunteers in Nassau County have dropped from 80 to 58, a figure that she hopes will soon change, so the program can touch more lives in the 69 nursing homes and assisted living facilities it serves.
“Our qualifications are simple: care and compassion for frail, disabled, elderly residents and a desire to educate and empower to protect their rights,” Margaret says. “We want volunteers with big hearts.”
Ongoing training takes place eight times a year, where volunteers are educated about Department of Health regulations and other vital information while sharing ideas and discussing challenges. Ombudmen and women also have the opportunity to network and socialize at FCA’s volunteer appreciation luncheon held twice a year.
“The program is a great way for retired professionals to get back into the community and stay active,” Margaret points out. Many are former attorneys, nurses, and teachers, like Bill.
“Being an Ombudsman is rewarding because it’s intellectually stimulating and you’re doing something with a purpose,” he says. “Even the smallest accomplishment can have a huge impact on a person’s life.”
For more information on Ombudservice and volunteer opportunities, please call 516-466-9718 x2 or visit www.familyandchildrens.org/programs-services/senior-services/ombudservice.
Article by Kelly Kass, Senior Writer, Marketing Works
Integrative Care at HERTURN
Maria engaged with FCA's HERTURN program desperate and clueless with how to move forward in her life. HERTURN's professional case managers warmly welcomed her into the program and began advocating for her immediately. Maria's case managers assisted Maria in filling out paperwork and going to court to advocate alongside an impending eviction Maria was facing.
Maria also received assistance in obtaining legal representation to help finalize her divorce from her ex-husband. Despite all that has been overwhelming Maria's life, she consistently demonstrates a clear motivation to reach her goals. As a result, Maria ultimately became enrolled in FCA’s GED program and utilizes FCA's Nursery Co-op to care for her youngest child while she resolves the legal matters that have been casting a dark cloud over her for the past several months.
Maria has been moving forward leaps and bounds since her initial enrollment in the FCA's HERTURN program. She has felt more confident with each passing day and has recently begun attending HERTURN group meetings. Additionally, the client has had the opportunity to participate in programs such as “Adopt A Family” where FCA supporters donate gifts during the holidays to support families going through difficult times. Maria looks ahead toward to her future with a newfound confidence that she attributes to HERTURN!
FCA Is My Safe Space
Laura has been a client at FCA's Hempstead Family Treatment & Recovery Center (FT&RC) since late summer, 2017. When she first engaged with substance use treatment she was resistant, having difficulty connecting with peers and staff. Group sessions seemed to fit her schedule to be able to maintain consistent attendance with the program yet after a handful of group sessions, it became apparent by the clinical team that Laura was not ready to meet in a group setting.
Over the past few months, Laura continued to engage in one-to-one work with her counselor, exploring the reasons that brought her to FCA. She began to build a therapeutic alliance with her counselor which helped her get through difficult times on a day-to-day basis. Through this relationship and the time and energy Laura has put into her personal growth, she is now compliant with her mental health medications, is more open to working on her treatment goals and identifies FCA's Hempstead FT&RC as a safe space. Laura is being considered to begin group work again within the next month or two and is showing progress towards her treatment goals including having repeated negative toxicology test results since November 2017.
Successful Treatment After Two DWIs
Arjun, 33, was referred to FCA's Hicksville Family Treatment & Recovery Center (FT&RC) for a chemical dependency evaluation by one of our referring legal entities. Arjun acquired an arrest for his second DWI in April of 2017. He was under the influence of alcohol and marijuana.
Based on the information he provided, the FT&RC clinical team recommended he attend their phase one early recovery and phase two relapse prevention program alongside their DWI series. Initially, Arjun struggled with accepting responsibility and accountability for the actions that led to his arrest. He minimized the gravity of the situation and would often become argumentative and defensive when challenged on his reality and ideologies.
As he continued treatment, he began to verbalize an increased understanding of addiction and recovery, let go of his defense mechanisms and allowed feedback. He was able to maintain abstinence from all mind and mood altering substances throughout treatment, move out of his parents home, and focus on his career. He had shared his commitment to his religious morals and values and began to piece together how his past behaviors did not match his religious beliefs. His religion became one of his protective factors to staying sober and in recovery.
The early recovery program and DWI series assisted Arjun in acquiring more insight into how his maladaptive actions and behaviors were sabotaging his life, increased his knowledge on traffic laws, blood alcohol levels and helped him gain a better understanding of addiction. When he finished working his way through early recovery and the DWI series, he then began working on relapse prevention skills. In relapse prevention he pieced together all he learned and started planning how he was going to get through life without repeating the same mistakes from his past. He was able to successfully complete the program after 7 and half months with a relapse prevention plan, being in compliance with his probation, and motivated for his future.
Samantha, 43, referred herself to FCA's Hicksville Family Treatment & Recovery Center (FT&RC) for after-care treatment following 30-day rehabilitation at Nassau University Medical Center. Samantha described herself as a ‘full-blown alcoholic” to her counselor at the time of intake. When treatment began, she was struggling to manage 3 young children and a husband who also struggles with alcohol dependence all while trying to maintain and strengthen her newly established abstinence. Samantha's counselor explained the after-care treatment process to address the her anxiety and depression associated with her marital issues, helping her understand the implications alcoholism has on the family as well as the self.
After consistent appointments, Samantha has established and maintained a sober lifestyle through treatment, becoming an active member of Alcoholics Anonymous meetings (daily), and establishing a strong sober social support system. She has learned to treat herself and her recovery as a priority and has been able to diminish the impact of her husband’s drinking and criticism upon her efforts. Samantha continues to utilize Relapse Prevention skills to tackle ongoing marital issues, as well as day-to-day problems that arise. Client successfully completed treatment recommendations and is currently attending 1:1 sessions to strengthen her sobriety.
“At FCA we respect all who come to us for help – and many are working toward a fresh start in life. So while their stories are true, client names and images may have been changed to protect their privacy. FCA thanks you for understanding."
Gratitude for a Friendly Visitor
A message to client's Friendly Visitor:
“I’m calling to wish you, your beautiful daughter and your loving caring mother a Happy Hanukkah. And to thank you for everything you’ve done for me because you’ve gone over and beyond. I just want to say thank you so much for helping all of us. You know, the words thank you are not enough but it’s all I have. I just want to say thank you for caring for somebody that’s been hurt, used and abused, and taken advantage of. Thank you for helping me become somebody. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.”
-FCA Client, Friendly Visiting Program.
FCA Helps Keep Seniors Warm During Winter Months
When John Larrieu was faced with financial challenges in 2014, he turned to Family & Children’s Association (FCA) to ease the struggles of home heating costs. A referral from social services led him to the Mineola-based agency, where he was introduced to Kim Feldman, a Case Coordinator with FCA’s Home Energy Assistance Program (HEAP). Feldman walked John through the necessary steps to apply for the program, which helps more than 2,000 low-income seniors pay the cost of heating their homes each winter.
“Our program opens to the public in mid-November and eligibility is determined based on a person’s income and household size,” Feldman explains. Applicants must also present identification (such as a driver’s license or social security card), a sample heating or utility bill, as well as a bank statement or tax forms to declare any interest earned.
Approved applicants receive one regular HEAP benefit per year. Once an application is processed and approved by FCA, a voucher from NYS HEAP is sent to the fuel company’s account, resulting in a credit that appears on the monthly bills of HEAP participants.
For Long Island seniors like Larrieu, the program offers peace of mind and added comfort in his Oceanside home. “With HEAP, I can raise my thermostat instead of walking around with two sweaters on,” Larrieu says.
With that, comes increased safety. Feldman points out, “Having a sufficient amount of heat, seniors won’t have to look for alternative ways to keep warm, such as turning on an oven or other potentially dangerous methods.”
In addition to providing enhanced safety and an improved quality of life, HEAP also helps to ease financial pressures that many seniors face. As a caregiver to two grandchildren, Larrieu is grateful for the support that HEAP provides. “When you’re older and living on a fixed income, you have to save costs any way you can. Thanks to HEAP, I can buy a little more food for the household knowing my heating bill is taken care of.”
Larrieu credits Feldman for enabling him to fill out an early application form. Her reassuring demeanor assists him through the process “every step of the way,” as she makes sure the forms are completed properly and on time.
“It’s all about being there for someone and Kim is a godsend to me. She and Family & Children’s Association truly go above and beyond,” Larrieu says.
For more information on HEAP, including reduced rates on utility bills, free weatherization and other benefits, please call 516-227-7386, (516) 746-0350, or visit https://www.familyandchildrens.org/programs-services/senior-services/heap/.
Jonathan: A Fresh Start
I am Jonathan and I am 21 years old. Both my parents abused drugs while my siblings and I were growing up with them. When I was 7 years old my mom left and never returned. I went to go live with my aunt for 3 years and was told that my mom died when I was 9 years old. At the age of 10 my father decided to come get me and my siblings to live with him and his new girlfriend. He and his girlfriend continued to abuse drugs in front of us. I don’t know why or how but I was then placed into foster care at age 11. My siblings and I were all split up and placed in different group homes. At 19 years old I decided to sign myself out of foster care and live with my biological Aunt who promised me a better life. I thought this was a chance to live a normal life with some stability and a real family. After a few months she left me alone in her apartment, utilities went unpaid and there was no food in the home. She had left to be with a boyfriend she met online. It’s never a good time to go through what I was going through, but I was just diagnosed with type II diabetes and prescribed multiple medications including insulin shots every day. I didn’t really understand my medical condition, but I knew I had to take better care of myself.
I was feeling scared and all alone and with not knowing who to turn to, I called my old Project Independence worker at FCA. She explained the Nassau Haven Emergency Shelter and the Walkabout transitional living programs to me. Although the last thing I wanted was to enter a shelter, I had few options left. I was shocked at how nice the house was at Nassau Haven and the staff too. I stayed at the Nassau Haven for 2 weeks, visiting Walkabout and starting to have dinners and attend their group meetings until I moved officially there.
While at Walkabout I secured employment, started individual counseling, and was taken to the endocrinologist to learn about diabetes and receive the proper medical care. Most kids my age have family to help and support them, my mom died when I was younger and my father who I had a complex relationship with, recently passed away. I started to form bonds with the FCA staff and they became my family. I saved my money while at Walkabout and staff helped me find an apartment that I could afford in Freeport; I wasn’t ready to leave, but the Walkabout laws say that kids can only stay until their 21st birthday. They helped me decorate my apartment and put me in what they call “after care”- I call it having someone who checks in on me and offers guidance and help. I can't say that it's been easy and I know I have difficult days ahead, but I can say I wouldn't be where I am without the support and help of FCA’s Nassau Haven and Walkabout programs.
Alejandra: Leaving Home Behind for Safety
My Name is Alejandra, I am 15 years old from El Salvador. The last grade I completed was 5th grade. I remember that I enjoyed going to school. My parents and grandmother were my support and I love them very much.
One day when I was coming back from a neighborhood store to buy milk and bread for my grandmother four men unknown to me approached me (my heart began to palpitate so fast) they pulled me to the side of the road & covered my face. I screamed as loud as I could but no one heard me. These four men sexually assaulted me for approximately 40 minutes. I went back home and told my family what happened. My father decided to file a police report about what happened to me and the next day a group of men came to our house armed with machetes and destroyed our property and then left.
Although this was becoming common in my village, when it’s you and your family, your world falls apart. My father immediately called a relative in New York and on that sad day, a coyote was hired and my journey to leave my country and my family began.
We slept at night and walked during the day. We did not have much food and only ate once a day. When we were crossing the Mexican border, we were apprehended and taken into police custody., The police asked me a lot of questions and then I was transferred to another location that looked like a warehouse & then I was finally transferred to a shelter in Texas.
While I was in the shelter I was given a physical by a doctor. The doctor explained to me that I was 4 months pregnant. My thoughts were “why me”, I am not prepared”, “my god father is not going to help me”. My feelings and emotions were all over the place. After attending daily therapy sessions I began to feel more comfortable and accepting of the unknowns that I knew awaited for me.
I stayed in the shelter for several months until my god father in New York was able to provide all the necessary documents needed for me to leave the shelter. As soon as I arrived at my god father’s house in Westbury, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. Fortunately my god father was supportive and didn’t kick me out of the house and knew of this program called FCA PACT.
With the help of the PACT program I have been able to learn parenting skills which have provided me with the tools that I need to be a better mother. The support I am getting from my PACT worker is giving me the confidence I need to be a new young mom. I am very fortunate to have found people who truly care about me & my daughter. People who chose to help me and my baby from their hearts and not expect anything in return. All I have to say is thank you for saving my life and welcoming me to your country where I have found peace, love and support.
Senior & Friendly Visitor
With her vibrant smile radiating throughout the home she and her late husband first moved into back in 1970, 86 year-old Sadie Lloyd’s current mindset is positive and full of life. Yet, she wasn’t always experiencing high spirits. Living alone and suffering from Atrial Fibrillation (AFib), a medical condition that affects the heart which can lead to blood clots, stroke, heart failure and other heart-related complications, Sadie struggled for a long time in bed with no family nearby. The isolation Sadie experienced is telling of many seniors’ lives on Long Island.
The aging population on Long Island continues to increase as baby boomers are reaching their 70s and 80s and many unheard voices are feeling the effects of rising healthcare costs, limited mobility to access resources and shifts in family dynamics which families are unprepared to effectively manage. Isolated grandfathers and grandmothers, many of which are fearful of leaving their homes for a variety of reasons or reluctant to move in with their children, are unaware of the vital services that exist on Long Island to help improve their overall quality of life.
Sadie is a perfect example. Even before her husband, who was suffering from Alzheimer’s disease for eleven years, passed away in 2011 from pneumonia, Sadie began to feel truly isolated. She was her husband’s caregiver 24/7 and had to accept that her husband often didn’t recognize who she was. Nevertheless she gave him the care he deserved with no expectations and little support. After her mother, a live-in housekeeper, passed away in 2013, Sadie had no family left in New York. Her AFib episodes, which consisted of heart complications that would often make it difficult for her to function, started occurring more frequently and she had to attend more frequent doctor’s appointments to check up on her cardiac health. Bills were not getting paid, mail was piling up. Sadie’s neighbors would check-in once in a while, but her days would be spent in bed ruminating in anticipation of her next AFib episode. All of that changed when FCA (Family & Children’s Association) came into Sadie’s life. With the help of Sadie’s In-home care (EISEP) case manager, who identified Sadie’s need for a “friendly visitor,” Sadie’s life was about to change for the better.
FCA’s Friendly Visiting Program provides seniors with a trained volunteer, one hour a week, to provide companionship and support. Liz, Sadie’s friendly visitor, showed up at her door nearly two years ago ready to help and continues to meet with Sadie to this day. “Liz is a light entering my life each time she walks into my home,” said Sadie with a heartfelt look on her face. Although Liz is only asked to visit Sadie one hour per week, she ends up staying with Sadie around three hours every Friday. “Friday used to be my day with my father before he passed, then it was my day with my aunt before she passed, now it’s my day with Sadie”, said Liz of her motivation to help seniors-in-need.
The first year of Liz’s visits to Sadie’s home involved sitting bedside, listening and talking with Sadie who insisted on staying in bed all day. Liz would listen to Sadie’s stories, learn about her history and share laughs. In addition, Liz would ensure that Sadie was kept up with her mail, bills and doctor’s appointments as Sadie worked on finding the motivation to be more active and outgoing.
“It breaks me down when I feel down from AFib. Liz helps me with small chores like laundry, cleaning curtains, preparing food, but more importantly is willing to listen to me talk,” said Sadie. She continued, “My Family & Children’s Association workers [Liz and case manager] care for what is in my best interest and I am blessed to have them in my life”.
As weeks turned into month and months turned into a couple of years, Sadie is now up and walking around the home with a contagious smile, welcoming of guests to her well-kept home on a quiet street in Hempstead, NY. She goes to church every Sunday, her neighbors take her out to breakfast every Thursday and she occasionally goes to the Yes We Can center to play dominoes and cards, dance, learn sign language and engage in bible study with a large group of friends she’s made over the past year. At home she enjoys cooking and is carefully and gradually ramping up her daily outdoor walks due to her asthma.
Although Sadie still experiences AFib complications, she is living life to the fullest. “I talk to all my friends about FCA’s Friendly Visiting Program. If I had known about this program when I was younger, I would have become a friendly visitor myself,” shared Sadie.
Becoming a Friendly Visitor is simple. You’re asked to dedicate at least one hour a week with a senior in Nassau County after clearing the required background checks and attending a free-training session. While most friendly visitors are retirees, Liz is an example of a friendly visitor who works two jobs and is still able to find the time to change a person’s life for the better. For more information, call us today: 516.292.1300 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Graduating High School
The end of school and the beginning of summer brings graduation day for many. Families gather and celebrate yet another milestone as their young one furthers their education and develops into a young adult. For several Long Island teens, graduation may involve little to no immediate family in attendance yet feel equally supportive. At FCA's Walkabout Transitional Home for homeless young adults, the primary goal is to guide youth to be able to live independently and develop into healthy adults. Youth who have struggled to find a place to live or were living in an unstable and often unsafe environment find Walkabout to be a warm, welcoming and judgement-free home with staff members that will go above and beyond to help residents stay on a path to success. In addition to providing in-house services, Walkabout staff are well known for attending outside events that celebrate and recognize resident's accomplishments.
At FCA's Walkabout Transitional Home for homeless young adults, the primary goal is to guide youth to be able to live independently and develop into healthy adults. Youth who have struggled to find a place to live or were living in an unstable and often unsafe environment find Walkabout to be a warm, welcoming and judgement-free home with staff members that will go above and beyond to help residents stay on a path to success. In addition to providing in-house services, Walkabout staff are well known for attending outside events that celebrate and recognize resident's accomplishments.
Most recently, Walkabout celebrated the graduation of a self-motivated resident named Angela. Her time at Walkabout has been immensely exciting for staff to witness how far she has developed in terms of gaining the tools needed for independent living. Angela is a true scholar, excelling in her academics and going above and beyond to advance her studies when possible.
Walkabout staff describes Angela as confident with a clear path for her academic future. Walkabout career counselor Kristen Ferrari said, "she knows what she wants and is willing to put in the work to get there".
Walkabout staff was in attendance for Angela's graduation ceremony at Uniondale High School last month where she was awarded a merit scholarship from the Uniondale Federation of Teachers as well as a scholarship from Latinas Unidas. Angela is currently choosing between Nassau Community College and Mercy College to study elementary education.
Walkabout can house 10 young adults at a time and is a unique program to Nassau County. To learn more about Walkabout, visit the Walkabout web page. To support Walkabout, visit our donate page to contribute to the success of hundreds of young adults each and every year.
Valentine's Day - Smiles for FCA's Seniors
Verizon Fios1 Long Island Valentines Day Story: From FCA's Youngest to our Eldest - Heart and Soul February 2017 brought many smiles to seniors across Nassau County. A unique collaboration between Family and Children's Association and 1-800-Flowers led to 15 bouquets being delivered to seniors who are involved with FCA's senior programs. One special delivery was made to Mrs. Citarella (100 years young) who received a bouquet of flowers from FCA's nursery co-op kids. The kids also made Mrs. Citarella hand-made Valentine's Day cards and sang her a love song. Mrs. Citarella was married on Valentines Day in 1942 to her husband who passed several years ago.
Homeless Teen Fights for Her Future
While most 17 year olds were thinking about their high school graduation or contemplating which college they will go to in the fall, Jessica* was struggling with unstable housing conditions along with her father when she first entered Family & Children's program at Nassau Haven for runaway and homeless youth. Despite these challenging circumstances, Jessica was determined to be a successful and independent young adult and to achieve her goal of graduating from high school and going to college.
Having made great progress at Nassau Haven Jessica was transferred to FCAs Walkabout for Young Men and Women where she joined other young adults at the transitional housing facility. "At Walkabout, the focus is on helping youths have a place to call home while they gain important skills leading to self-sufficiency as well as the ability to become financially independent" says Andrea Kerr, Program Coordinator at Walkabout. Jessica was absolutely thrilled to reach some important milestones during her stay at Walkabout including graduation from Freeport High, securing her very first job at Starbucks and saving $2,000!
With the help of Day Counselor Kristen Ferrari she was able to navigate the college application process and was thrilled when she received her acceptance to SUNY Buffalo Educational Program.
Jessica's excitement turned into apprehension however, when she contemplated how she would handle the expense of travel, tuition and purchase of dorm supplies. However, that all turned around when Kristen and the other counselors at Walkabout rallied to her side and not only raised $650 for dorm supplies and new clothes but they also obtained a donation from Jet Blue for a ticket to SUNY Buffalo so she could start college on time with her class!
"It can be tough seeing the way some of these kids struggle and what they go through,” says Counselor Ferrari, “but to see a young woman like Jessica utilize the services and become a success makes it all worthwhile. That is the reason we are here."
Nassau Haven and Walkabout for Young Men and Women are just two of the programs of Family & Children’s Association. Family & Children’s is dedicated to protecting and strengthening Long Island’s most vulnerable children, seniors, families, and communities. We offer assistance to those who are experiencing social, emotional, and economic challenges. In 2015, FCA provided help and hope to over 20,000 men, women and children in Nassau and Suffolk.
*Some names have been changed.
To learn more about Family & Children’s Walkabout for Young Men and Women visit: www.familyandchildrens.org/walkabout
Nursery Co-op Program
Dear Miss Lynn, I am writing this letter in appreciation of your nursing program at Family and Children's Association. All of the teachers Lynn Vanderhall, Ana Castillo, and Anita Wilson were very professional in providing a caring and nurturing environment for my daughter, Isabella to learn. You were very helpful in advising me to get my child assessed for difficulties in speech and socializing in the class. You also helped me prepare for the CPSE meeting. Isabella has come such a long way just from being in the nursery program. It is because of all your help that my daughter will now be getting the services she needs to catch up and be the best that she can be. I can't thank you enough for your dedication. Sincerely, Maria Sosa (Mother of Isabella Polanco)
Thank you so much for the assistance on my rent. I was in a rough patch in my life being a single mom with 2 boys. I appreciate all the attention and time you guys have given to my family. Connie Rodriquez has been an amazing support system. The time and effort she has taken to help my family has been unreal. My experience with this program has been nothing but amazing. I’ve worked with others and none helped me like you guys.
Thank you so much from the bottom of our hearts.
I was referred to FCA by Kings County Family Court after my arrest for assault with intent to harm and endangering the welfare of a child. I was arrested because I'd had an argument with my wife in front of my seven year old son. I blamed my wife for my arrest and for taking away my right to be with my son. I was furious with her and may have stepped over the line by spitting in her face, but I thought she over-reacted by calling the police. After all, I witnessed plenty of verbal and physical arguments between my own parents when I was growing up and no one called the police.
I wasn't happy about it, but I started attending your evening group known as SAGE (Spousal Abuse Group Education) and during the first few sessions I told the group about my wife’s betrayal. At first, I defended my right to be angry and dismissed any feedback I got to the contrary. Slowly, however, I began to listen and learn how my own thinking was dysfunctional and how it affected my behavior. I learned that blaming someone else and minimizing my aggressiveness would not help me become a better husband, father and man. I developed new skills in communicating and listening and also learned how to use breathing techniques to diminish my anger. Slowly, as I applied these new skills to my dealings with others, I received positive feedback and encouragement from co-workers, friends and the SAGE group. I actually found greater peace within myself and was able to show my family that I valued them and loved them enough to change. I continue to attend the SAGE group so that I can become the person I was meant to be and to be a better father and husband.
Rebuilding Our Family
We were at a loss of how to deal with our son Branden, a boy we hardly recognized. The good student who laughed easily had become sullen and angry, missing school and ignoring curfews. We knew the yelling, grounding and punishments only made matters worse, but we were at our wits end. It was at our lowest point that we made the decision to seek help from the Nassau County court system and petitioned the court to supervise our son. Thankfully we were directed to FCA instead. After meeting individually and as a family with your family specialist, we realized that we each had a lot of work to do. We learned how to implement simple strategies into our lives as a way of building stronger bonds with each other through trust, quality time and empathy. Your concept of “My Time” has helped us figure things out in a kinder, gentler manner. We were made to feel comfortable and not different from ‘normal’ families. Now that our counseling is ending, we wish to thank you from the bottom of our hearts for all you have done to help our family.
Set for a Bright Future
Nachela came to us back in 2011 at the age of 14 because she was suffering from neglect: she was not enrolled in school and was not living in appropriate housing. She had just been removed from her home and placed in foster care when FCA welcomed her as a member of our Project Independence program. In keeping with our mission to help Long Island’s most vulnerable children, we assist children ages of 14-21 who are in foster care. Studies have shown that after exiting the foster care system at the age of majority (usually 18), many of these youth face serious problems, including homelessness, poverty, incarceration, early pregnancy, and unstable employment.
FCA works to ensure that Long Island’s children do not meet this same fate. We offer them a pathway to a new life of independence and success.
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Nachela flourished as part of our Project Independence program; she became part of a peer support group at her high school and participated in community service projects, mentored incoming freshmen and conducted school fundraisers. Now at 18, she is going off to college and because of her interest in giving back to others, has decided that “social work is the right career path for me.”
In recognition of her hard work and commitment to her future, she has been awarded a $1500/semester (plus book reimbursement) scholarship from Ronkonkoma-based Rothco (www.rothco.com). Rothco is also covering the cost of new luggage and the shipping of her things to her school. Nachela has worked at Starbucks since she was 16 and will be transferring to the Colorado-based branch near her school so she can continue working while attending classes.
Hard work, dedication, and help from FCA’s community of caring enabled Nachela to begin her new life. Won’t you help other children get the same chance? Donate today.
My Life Matters
I am the only child of a teenage mother who was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and schizophrenia. During my childhood I felt depressed, worthless, misunderstood and ashamed; I had thoughts of suicide. I thought that suicide would bring me peace and that my absence would take the burden off my family.
I didn’t have many friends growing up because my mother separated me from my peers. I saw my mother being mistreated because of her condition and constantly worried about a future for my mother and me. I knew what my dad looked like, however he was never a father figure in my life. Then, my grandparents were granted custody of me by Family Court but living with them was uncertain and abusive.
Letters from the state began to arrive stating that my guardians would no longer receive benefits because I was turning the legal age of 18. I knew at some point my grandparents would ask me to leave, so I began to pack my belongings, feeling forsaken and alone. As my 18th birthday neared, one of my grandparents asked me where I was working. I replied McDonalds and Dollartree. He said those jobs were not sufficient to earn enough money for my keep and that there wasn’t enough room in the house for me and I have to leave.
The next morning I met my youth advocate at Social Services. I began to cry as I explained my situation, especially when I tried to talk about my future goals. She recommended I go to FCA’s emergency shelter known as Nassau Haven until I was able to find long-term stable housing.
Two hours later a staff member from Nassau Haven came to pick me up and immediately upon my arrival helped me make important calls regarding my health insurance. While there I kept busy by reading, making calls and working because I didn’t know what would happen next.
Then I heard a fellow resident explain FCA’s Walkabout, a place that teaches young people how to become independent while learning new skills and learning the importance of a good education. The next day I remembered talking to one of the counselors, and I wanted to know what I needed to do in order to transition to Walkabout. He said to me; “you have to be motivated, focused, and goals oriented.” I replied; “that’s it?” He said “yes, that’s it.”
To make a long story short, after a short period of stay at Nassau Haven, I went on an interview at Walkabout. When I arrived I noticed how clean and spacious it was and how comfortable the other residents were. The counselor and I talked for a long time and when it was time for me to go I cried all over again because I didn’t think I was going to be accepted, because there was a waiting list. I was worried that I would become homeless. A couple days later I was informed I was officially a resident at Walkabout and I felt a huge sense of relief. The day I moved into Walkabout, I felt a true sense of peace, I also had a feeling of being blessed and said to myself, “I will not let this opportunity go to waste!”
At Walkabout I learned resilience. I was taught how to cook, how to apply for college and jobs, how to dress for job interviews, and how to drive by going to driving school. I became stronger than ever!
I was shown compassion and experienced attention from caring adults. The staff often asked how I was doing and how I feeling. They inquired about my schoolwork and how things were going at work. I was able to experience joy and happiness for the first time in my life. Recently my 18-month stay at Walkabout came to an end and I was ready to move into my own room. Well, well, well! Let me tell you the truth, that transition was not an easy one for me! Who would want to leave true family behind? To me Walkabout was and still is a true family to me and many others.
During my long stay at Walkabout, I also learned the value of hard earned money! I saved over $18,000.00 to begin a new journey. I am currently at Nassau Community College and on target to graduate and transfer to a four year college.
Although I have moved out of Walkabout, the staff and I have maintained our connection. Here is a little secret: I really needed their support after I moved out. They continue to offer it and it has been invaluable. These people are like extended family and I really appreciate all they have done and continue to do in my life. Just in case I didn’t say it, thank you to all of the Walkabout staff, my FCA mentors, volunteers, and last, but not least, everyone who supports Family & Children’s Association. Keep-Up the great work you are doing and thank you again!!!
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Keeping My Granddaughter Safe
My ten-year-old granddaughter Iyona lives with me, and sometimes she wishes she had her mother, father, sister and brother to play with. Her parents are not able to care for her because they’re dealing with various issues and Iyona was moved from her home to mine. As her parents work to bring their family back together, I try to make her feel loved and happy.
Last summer, Iyona attended summer camp for the first time thanks to a Family & Children’s Camp Scholarship and had an awesome time! She spent her days doing arts and crafts, theater activities, sports, and having fun outdoors. Iyona recalls that her favorite day was when a local petting zoo visited the camp bringing along some animals. The campers learned all about the animals and were able to pet and interact with them. Iyona was even brave enough to hold a large snake around her neck! She still talks about this day and insists that she wasn’t scared at all! Last fall, Iyona returned to school and was able to write all about her summer and all that she had seen and learned.
Thank you for your kindness in helping Iyona and other children enjoy a happy, carefree summer as their parents go to work, or work at becoming stronger, better parents.
Getting Back to Normal
After giving birth to my third child, my joy quickly turned to fear when I was told that my new baby would require multiple surgeries to correct a birth defect. My whole world suddenly turned upside down. I had to resign from my job so I could accompany my infant to a maze of doctors' appointments and hospital visits, in order to help my baby get the care she needed. There was a lot of information I needed to absorb and I had to focus and make tough decisions. I knew I wouldn't be able to bring my other two small children along with me to all of these meetings. What was I going to do with them? Who would watch them?
Thankfully, the Nursery Co-op was there to care for my toddlers while I went back and forth to the hospital with my infant. They had an awesome time and each morning they asked to go back to school. I can't express how grateful I am for the help and knowing that they were being well cared for while my husband went to work and I navigated the world of medicine. I'm happy to report that our baby had several surgeries and is doing much better. We have a visiting nurse helping us now and things are beginning to feel normal again. I don’t know where we would be if it weren’t for your help and support.
From Foster Child to Grateful Mom
I was placed in foster care at a very young age. I lived with my first foster family until the age of 10 when my foster care father passed away. I then moved to a wonderful family with whom I stayed until I became an adult. I consider myself very lucky to have such a wonderful family in my life, a family with whom I am still close to this day.
Over the years it was difficult to stay focused on the positives in life and to avoid negative feelings that result when a person feels unwanted by their birth parents. Then, when I had to move to a new family and change schools at the formidable age of 10, I felt a great burden and struggled to adjust to a new home and a new school. As a teenager, I struggled with some of these feelings and made some mistakes, but I always felt supported by my foster family who encouraged me to learn from every experience.
I decided to focus on the “what could be” scenario versus the “woe is me” mindset. On some level I knew that the “woe is me” mindset would set me back and lead to unhealthy choices. My brother who lived apart from me was in and out of jail over the years and I knew that I didn’t want that kind of life for myself. But, it was the help I received from your Project Independence that really saved my life.
I started attending Project Independence meetings and became involved in all the activities that you had to offer. The counselors enhanced my life by letting me know that I was worthy of love and support. They encouraged me to take advantage of every opportunity that was open to me and to give myself the chance to succeed. I attended meetings and picnics and was even invited to speak at your ThanksGiving Ball in an effort to coax me out of my shell. “The system” that oversees children in foster care is very cold, but the counselors at Project Independence were warm, loving and turned out to be not a replacement of my foster family but an additional family that cared about me. Being in your program felt like a sigh of relief.
When I turned 18 and aged out of foster care, I was lucky enough to receive an offer from my Project Independence counselor to move to subsidized housing. This way I could try to find employment and live on my own. Or, she said I could go to college. College!? My foster mother and my counselor helped me with the applications and financial aid forms and off to college I went. It was a great opportunity that has shaped my career and led to my financial stability and family success. Today I am married and the mother of a beautiful six year old boy. I give him all the love and encouragement and tell him that he can be anything he wants to be, and I tell him that no dream is too big.
Saving Our Family
For my family, the last fourteen weeks have been a rollercoaster ride and not the fun kind. We were at a loss of how to deal with our son Simon, a boy we hardly recognized anymore. The good student who laughed easily had become sullen and angry, missing school and ignoring curfews. We knew the yelling, grounding and punishments were only making matters worse, but we were at our wits end. It was at our lowest point that we made the decision to seek help from the Nassau County court system. What would happen to our son if we didn’t seek help? What would happen to him once he became part of the juvenile justice system? After many sleepless nights, we petitioned the court to supervise our son as part of their Person in Need of Supervision program (PINS).
We were surprised when our entire family was directed to FCA. After meeting individually and as a family with your family specialist, we realized that there was a lot of work to be done and not just by Simon. Each of us learned how to implement simple strategies into our lives as a way of building stronger bonds with each other through trust, quality time and empathy. Your concept of “My Time” has helped us figure things out in a kinder, gentler manner. Participating in your Strengthening Families program helped us re-evaluate each other and guided us through the difficult process of becoming a more united family, able to deal more effectively with our anger and our emotions. We were made to feel comfortable and not different from ‘normal’ families. Now that our program is ending, we wish to thank you from the bottom of our hearts for all you have done to help our family. We will miss you… but hopefully we won’t need to come back, except to say hello.
In 2006, my family made the difficult decision to leave our home in Iraq because of increasing violence. We had to leave everything we had behind as we struggled to escape a terrifying and escalating situation. Thankfully, after many months of waiting, we were accepted to come to the United States. It was the biggest relief I have ever felt in my life. We arrived in America in March of 2008. My uncle, who had lived here for ten years, sponsored us. I began a job at a supermarket as a deli clerk and, speaking very little English, found a one bedroom apartment for the four of us by convincing the landlord to rent to us without a security deposit. I had to work sixty-five hours a week at two different jobs to pay the rent with my brother because my parents could speak very little English and thus could not find jobs.
Thankfully, I was able to attend Family and Children’s Vocational Education program and attain my GED in November of 2008. I was then admitted to Nassau Community College in spring of 2009. Going to college and navigating the language barriers was extremely difficult but I earned a 3.94 cumulative GPA. After NCC I went to Columbia University to finish my undergraduate degree. Over the years I received scholarship funds from FCA that enabled me to continue with my education plus I was given the opportunity to meet several individuals who would become important role models in my life, including honoree Andrew Corrado, VP at Signature Bank. Mr. Corrado became my mentor and was instrumental in guiding me towards internships and teaching me strategies for creating opportunities for success.
Thanks to support from FCA, I will graduate shortly from Columbia University and will be on my way to an exciting career at Goldman Sachs. I am grateful to Family & Children’s for the guidance, support and scholarships that enabled me to continue my education and realize my dreams.
Finishing High School
I promised my daughter that one day I would finish high school and even though I’m 50 years old, I decided it was time to get my life straightened out; it hasn’t been easy. After years of relying on alcohol to make myself feel better, I had to learn to acknowledge the underlying problems that chipped away at my happiness. I also had to take a hard look at how my actions hurt those around me, especially my loved ones. Slowly I began to understand the cause and effect of my substance abuse and how if I wanted to live differently, I had to act differently.
I enrolled in your Vocational Ed program and started getting tutoring to help me in English and math. Slowly I improved in my studies and then my confidence started to improve about things like my appearance and the way I kept my home. Each day was like a new beginning, but it wasn’t always easy to string several good days together. With the help of my counselor and tutors, I’ve been able to remain sober for 14 months and am hoping to pass the high school equivalency exam and obtain my GED this coming spring.
Things are turning around for me thanks to everyone at FCA. I’m proof that you’re never too old to turn your life around.
Fighting For My Country
I was 19 when I became homeless back in 2013. My dad, stepmom and I were fighting so much that they finally asked me to leave their house. I couldn’t go live with my birth mom because she left me and my stepbrothers and sisters in the care of my stepdad who travelled for a living, leaving us alone and unsupervised much of the time.
In the beginning, I spent time ‘couch surfing’ at friends’ houses and even slept at McDonald’s because they were open 24/7. Soon it became obvious to the kids at school and my advisor that something was wrong and my advisor suggested that I go to Nassau Haven, your emergency shelter. The staff was friendly and helped me sort out my situation and suggested that since I couldn’t go home, that I might want to live at Walkabout with other young people in similar situations. There were rules and curfews but I managed to adjust and took time to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I tried college, worked at the Nautical Mile over the summer and finally decided that I wanted to fulfill a long-time dream to join the Marines. I enlisted and will go to Parris Island for boot camp. I reconciled with my family and am happy to be back on track with my plans for the future. I owe it all to FCA.
You can find veteran resources and support at MakeTheConnection.net. The site is free and accessible to everyone.
Back On My Feet
When I was 70 years old, living alone and dealing with Diabetes, I fell and injured my neck and was placed on a ventilator for six weeks. I then spent a year in rehab due to injuries related to the fall and the frost-bite I contracted while in the military. During my hospital stay, I received wonderful advice: call Family & Children’s Association upon discharge. That was three years ago, and in that time despite my physical limitations, I’ve managed to get back on my feet with your help. I enjoy regular visits from a Family & Children’s case worker who is the kind of person who would do anything to help and I also receive a visit from one of your “chore workers” who helps me with household chores.
My entire mood and attitude about life improved because I am able to stay in my home and remain independent. My case worker is an amazing individual; if there’s anything she can do to help a human being in need, no matter the cost, she’ll do it. Family & Children’s will do anything to help seniors in Nassau County and without their help, the quality of my life would be much less than it is right now. I couldn’t survive without you.
A Home Of Our Own
After years of suffering physical, financial, and emotional abuse from my husband, I finally found the strength to divorce him. After the divorce, however, I was unable to pay my bills and lost my home; suddenly becoming homeless with my two young children, one of whom suffers from Autism. All of this took a toll on my own health leaving me with multiple chronic medical conditions that limited my mobility and eventually forced me to resign from my job of over 10 years; I had hit rock bottom.
With your help, I was referred to a program that provided an in-home aid for me and my son including medical transportation as needed. Your contributions of clothing, food and back-to-school items for my children helped us to stay afloat while we awaited benefits from the Department of Social Services, Social Security and a local housing program. After 2 years of homelessness, we recently moved into a home of our own. It’s hard to explain how proud I am of being able to take care of my children again thanks to the support and guidance you’ve given me. It changed my life and the lives of my children and I’ll be forever grateful.